99% of What We Believe About Female Sexuality is Nonsense
1. With the rule you can not have an orgasm
2. During pregnancy, do not touch us
Of course you can perform the sexual act during the nine months of pregnancy, even some primates fornicate while the female is pregnant. Another story is that it is uncomfortable. First, because you have to find the position in which the two fit and she finds the obstacle of the belly on all sides. Second, because the process of pregnancy leads to symptoms such as vomiting, nausea, fatigue, rapid weight gain, threatened abortion or premature birth …
And that takes away the desire for many, as reflected in this work entitled Sex and pregnancy: ideas of health professionals. However, sexologists check in the consultations that is in function of each individual, as there are couples who, during the second trimester of pregnancy, point to an increase in desire and frequency, and to seek alternative positions to the missionary. the final quarter.
On the other hand, there are budding parents who fear hurting the fetus in an onset, when, in fact, it is well protected in the womb and the male member does not give as to cause an abortion. Nor can cause orgasm or semen (by infection of the amniotic fluid), however, there are couples who believe that, in the later stages of pregnancy, are dangerous, given that the orgasmic contractions produced by oxytocin or semen prostaglandins they could accelerate labor, a rumor that is not proven.
3. Only men think about sex. They, selectively
We start from the basis that the species has been preserved by sexual desire between genders, so, either women also want men, or if they are not reproducing forced by them, which is the double standard that speaks this methodological criticism.
So yes, women also think about copulating, but to give themselves to the cause they need certain certainty that they will obtain a sexual return, that is, that they will enjoy. Carla Romaní, from Madrid, 39 years old, sums it up like this: “First, that there is chemistry … The smell of your skin, that the guy is nice, that makes you laugh and makes you have a nice time before the action … Definitely, I want it to be seductive, to put myself at a thousand, nor do I need to fall in love for a powder, or that the sky promises me … We will not get married! “.
4. Women do not like oral sex as much as penetration
«To me that (for oral sex) seems to me a thing that can not be healthy … That is from very dirty people». This quote from a young woman represents all those people who still consider that orogenital activities respond to homosexual tendencies, since they are not reproductive as penetration. However, when the female population is consulted, the majority admits that they like to be cunnilingus as part of the prolegomena and/or as a complement to penetration.
This is also corroborated, statistically, by The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, from the University of Indiana, in the US: “Men are more likely to have an orgasm during vaginal penetration, while women are more likely to have an orgasm during vaginal penetration. orgasm when they practice a variety of sexual acts and when oral sex or vaginal penetration are included. “
5. From behind nobody likes … What’s up!
Despite the taboo, we have found women for this report who confess that anal sex “like, like, for the same reason why some do not like it: because it is a subtle game of domination and submission. it’s the same for everyone, another thing is that they want to try, “says Verónica, 44 years old.
Many women try their sex toys and lubricant, but then refuse to try it with their partners because, according to Laura Carrión , a journalist specializing in sexology, “with a toy you can control the thickness and depth, go where you want; while a man can strike you brutally, and an anal dildo is finer than a vibrator for the vagina or a penis. “
6. Women do not masturbate, or lie much
In all studies, in the country where surveys are conducted, women always masturbate less than men, as can be seen in the chart of The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior . Females who admit it are much less and less frequently; Moreover, not a few claim that they never masturbate.
We consulted on this assumption Alena KH, creator of the Intersex website and author of the book ‘The market is fatal’ (Rocabolsillo) and explains: “I know some who do not really masturbate, because they do not like it, but they have non-stop coital relationships Now, I think that the “I do not masturbate” is a bit like “I do not see porn”, that some do not really see it because it seems dirty, and others are silent “.
In the web Intersexiones we find a study that holds that, “when women masturbate, they think of someone they have not yet been with, someone unattainable, and men, in the former”. It is impossible to know the percentage of females lying and caressing each other secretly, but among their arguments are the fear of social judgment and that their partners take them for fresh or think they do not satisfy them enough.
7. With menopause, you can now retire
Sexologist Alfonso Antona, who advised this reporter to his book Sex Lies (Aguilar, 2010), says that “while it is true that women with climacteric may have some changes in their sexual physiology, this does not mean that they can not continue to have and giving pleasure … After a few small adjustments and tricks (use of lubricants, for example), your sex life can be full, even better, especially if you take advantage of the release and the unconcern of the possibility of becoming pregnant, of taking contraceptives, to look good during intercourse … “
8. Old women cannot have orgasms
The human being is a sexed being from birth until he dies, and can enjoy their sexuality from the first instinctive rubbing against a stuffed animal by a baby, which should not be repressed according to specialists, until old age. Celia Castillo, formerly in charge of a geriatric Andalusian residence, refers to multiple sexual encounters among clients, “and some women, already widows, said it was the first time they had an orgasm in their eighties.”
This is confirmed by Alfonso Antona in his publication for the Ministry of Social Affairs, entitled ‘Sexuality in the elderly’: “In a work that we carried out in a nursing home, with an average age of 82, a woman of 83 years old He commented on how he had his first orgarm at the tender age of 81. “
9. During the rule you do not get pregnant
This belief presupposes the absolute regularity of the period, as if the ovules were lowered to the uterus in an orderly and punctual manner such as the Swiss clock, when factors such as stress, eating disorders or emotional distress can totally disrupt the periodicity of menstruation.
Therefore, the Ogino method also lacks a scientific basis, and resorting to supposed contraceptive methods such as reversing or coitus interruptus has not prevented the species from multiplying profusely during the last centuries. With the same sexual culture, once positions were invented that, theoretically, would prevent pregnancy, such as urinating after intercourse or making love standing up and then douching.
The only thing that prevents pregnancies to 100% is abstinence, followed by tubal ligation and vasectomy, which are definitive methods; and then, around 99%, by the implant, the IUD, the hormonal injection, the pill, the hormonal patch and the ring, which are based on the combination of estrogen and progesterone. The condom is around 98%. From there to below, the reliability goes in free fall, according to this interesting article by Dr. Pedro Pinheiro in MD.Saude .
10. Myths about Female Sexuality – Cravings are not related to epidermal stains
The belief that during the gestation period the fetus can be ‘stained’ by cravings, traumas, disgust and frustrated whims of the mother is still widespread today. Science explains that the formation of these curious pigmentations in the skin is due to the hormonal revolution that takes place within the female body, whose physical changes also lead to a lack of electrolytes, vitamins and minerals, and, therefore, the appetite for certain foods.
Antona regrets that, scientifically, “it is not known exactly why the baby spots, but dermatologists argue that hyperpigmentation is caused by an excess of melanin, that is, in that area increases the substance that dyes the skin , or because of a problem in the baby’s capillaries. “