Myths and Truths About Anal Sex -Social stigma surrounds this sexual practice that, in addition to being completely healthy, can provide much pleasure for lovers. We banish false beliefs about anal sex.
It is an exclusive practice of homosexual couples
A common mistake is to associate this practice exclusively with male partners. It does not have to Anal sex is a sexual practice that can be very satisfying for both sexes.
It’s more pleasurable for them than vaginal sex
Not necessarily. According to the sexologist and anthropologist Carlos Horrillo, the male interest in this practice may come from an ancestral impulse to “conquer new territories” and considers of little importance the extended argument that the anal canal is narrower, which would provide a more sensation intense pleasure to the male.
However, the perception of pleasure is very subjective.
“If I try it and I like it, am I homosexual?”
Absolutely. The sexual enjoyment of practices related to anal sex does not have to be related to sexual orientation. While it is true that heterosexual men tend to show great interest in doing this practice with their female partners, this intention usually manifests only when the male is the one who penetrates the woman.
As Horrillo details, “there is a widespread belief or fear in many heterosexual men, which consists of:” if I try it and I like it, it means that I am homosexual. “Nothing is further from reality. This belief, according to the expert, responds to a cultural stereotype . Anal stimulation should be considered a normal practice for all men, regardless of their sexual orientation.
The male G-spot
You can not have an orgasm only with the stimulation of the prostate
It is not true. Although the percentage is very small, there is a considerable number of men who are capable of having an orgasm, the culmination of sexual pleasure, only by stimulating this area. It would be comparable to the percentage of women able to have an orgasm through the only stimulation of an erogenous zone such as the nipples.
However, the orgasm and the way to obtain it, Horrillo remembers, are very subjective.
Facts And Myths About Anal Sex For Women
Women do not enjoy it
Another false myth of anal sex is to consider that it is not a practice that can be pleasurable for women.
While it is true that the woman does not share the male anatomy, and does not have a prostate to stimulate, do not forget that the anus is a very important erogenous zone in the woman’s body, and can provide very pleasant sensations. Of course, the expert points out that, on many occasions, man “forgets” to stimulate other erogenous zones of his partner, something that is essential to increase his excitement and relaxation.
It’s a ‘dirty’ practice
Evidently, it is another myth linked to the cultural stigma of anal sex. Interestingly, it is the heterosexual women who, in many cases, apply this argument, thus avoiding performing a practice that can be very satisfying for them. The key is, as the expert points out, “to have enough information”.
In any case, more and more women are practicing it without complexes. Horrillo estimates that the figure is around 30% of heterosexual women.
If a heterosexual man practices it, he loses his virility
Again, this is an archaic cultural concept that has nothing to do with the reality of anal sex.
It is linked to the false belief that it is an exclusive practice of homosexual men. Therefore, many men refuse to dare to have their female partners penetrate them, using their own finger or sex toys, thus avoiding exploiting an important part of their sexuality.
For the sexologist Carlos Horrillo, “being penetrated has a psychological, emotional and cultural component”.
Men cannot be stimulated alone
False. In fact, anal self-exploration can be a very healthy practice in a male masturbation routine. Either manually or through devices prepared for this type of stimulation, it is beneficial for two reasons:
The first and most obvious, because it is a source of pleasure. And, the second, because it can even protect health.
Anal sex can prevent diseases
The practice of any type of sexual act is, in itself, beneficial for health. Many scientific studies have shown that ejaculating can often protect against prostate cancer.
On the other hand, frequent self-exploration allows men to be aware of their anatomy, and helps to perceive anomalies and prevent them; for example, a prostatitis.
The expert Carlos Horrillo regrets that male self-exploration is not spread to prevent prostatic diseases as it is done with the female sex, for example, with the self-exploration of the breasts.
The first time it always hurts
Indeed, it is usually like that. The anus is a sphincter that, a priori, is not accustomed to being penetrated, so it is normal that the first time anal sex is performed is painful, and it is so for most people, according to sexologist Carlos Horrillo.
To enjoy anal sex, relaxation and sexual arousal are essential.
“Pain decreases and pleasure increases with practice, especially if there is an emotional component in the sexual relationship, ” he says.
It is essential to lubricate the area
So is. As Carlos Horrillo recalls, the anus is a sphincter that “does not stretch like a vagina,” a common misconception when it comes to maintaining this type of sexual relationship.
To enjoy a satisfactory anal sexual relationship, and avoid causing pain and unnecessary damage, it is important to have a good lubricant, and, as Carlos Horrillo describes, “patience and affection”.
Anal sex transmits more infections
Not necessarily. In any type of sexual practice, adequate protection against Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) is vital. The condom is essential.
When anal sex is practiced without a condom, there is a risk of getting urinary tract infections; in men, because the rectal canal is plagued by E. coli bacteria, which are what cause this infection.
Women are also at risk of getting a urine infection when there is a very common type of situation: penetrate the vagina after having anal sex.
As Horrillo describes, in a very colloquial way, “when you use the back door, do not go back to the main door”; at least, not before having properly washed the penis, or having placed a new condom.
On the other hand, the Human Papilloma Virus and other diseases such as syphilis or gonorrhea present the same risk of contario in anal sex than in any other sexual practice, provided that it is carried out correctly.
AIDS is spread more through anal sex
It is not good to point out this practice as the only way of contagion, since this contributes to stigmatizing it and, even more importantly, to the people who practice it.
What is certain is that HIV is transmitted normally through the blood, or blood with other fluids (although it can also be contracted through mucous membranes).
During anal sex there may be a situation where there is a tear or slight microcracks because the anus must make an “effort”. If this occurs, there may be a contact of the penis with the blood of the couple and, if the infection exists, transmit more easily.
It is important to remember here that possessing the Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) in the organism does not necessarily mean developing the AIDS disease.